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Ask the Sexpert: Does Size Really Matter?

Welcome to Ask the Sexpert! This blog series focuses on sex, sexuality, and relationships. Read on for BU Sexperts Sophie Godley and Dr. Teri Aronowitz’s honest, truthful answers to students’ scandalous questions.

Dear Dr. T:

I’m not as big as some of my friends (if you know what I mean). When I’m with somebody new I worry that she won’t be satisfied. Does size really matter?


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You are not alone in this worry. Many men worry about this. The truth of the matter is… it is not what you have, but how you use it! Stimulation to the clitoris is important, so make sure that there is plenty of foreplay with your partner. Penetrative sex is also not the only way to be intimate and achieve orgasm – so be creative! Everyone has different areas on their body that are sensuous, so be playful and discover your partner’s sensual zones. And lastly, try to relax and have fun. If you are nervous it will interfere with your own sexual response and if it is obvious it could be a turnoff for your partner. It is not the size of your ship but the motion in the ocean!

Dr. Teri Aronowitz has a PhD in Nursing and completed post-doctoral studies at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction. Her clinical and research interests focus on sexual health and she has authored many publications on this topic. She is an Assistant Professor at UMass Boston College of Nursing & Health Sciences, Adjunct Assistant Professor in the Department of Family Medicine at Boston University School of Medicine, and is a Nurse Practitioner at BU Student Health Services.

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